When I die I want people to say "She lived a great life"........and mean it!
I do live a great life. It's not because I'm lucky, it's because I work hard for what I have and I appreciate it all. I appreciate my family, my good friends, my colleagues, my home, my ability to travel, my education, my work. I appreciate everything I have in life and I love it!
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying for one second that my life is perfect. I have fears, regrets, faults and disappointments and I know there's no such thing as perfection. But, I am happy with my lot and I certainly work hard for what I have.
When I was in college a friend of mine died suddenly and young. I wouldn't say I was extremely close to him as I was just getting to know him better but I certainly liked him a lot and respected him. He was smart, funny, handsome, intelligent and kind. What took me a while to come to terms with was the unfairness of it all. He had his whole life ahead of him. He did not deserve to die.
His death honestly changed the way I look at life forever. Life is short and fleeting and we never know when our last day will come. So when I'm asked to do something that scares me, go somewhere or try something new my answer is always "yes!". Try new things, get out of your comfort zone, make experiences you'll remember.
When people say to me "I'm stressed because I don't know what to do with my life" I always ask the same thing, "If money was no object and you didn't have to think about anyone else, what would you love to do?". Usually they say something like "I'd love to be a singer" or "I'd love to travel the world for free" or "I'd love to live in California and open a surfing school".
So, what is stopping them from doing any of those things? Their belief in themselves. The belief that only lucky people get to do things like become a famous singer, travel the world for free, move to a new country. It couldn't be more wrong!
There are very few things in life that are impossible. Sure, some things are more difficult to achieve than others but very few things cannot be achieved through hard work, determination and self belief. You can do anything you set your mind to. It all comes down to how much you really want it.
If you know what it is that you would love to do then grab it with both hands. Do everything in your power to achieve it. As I've said before, everyone has the same 24 hours in the day. Some people do very little with those 24 hours and others build an empire. If you look at the week as a whole there are 168 hours in total. No one gets more hours, no one gets less. If you take away 8 hours of sleep a day that gives you 112 hours of time awake. If you're working full time or in college you still have 73 hours outside of work and sleeping to get things done. What you do with those 73 hours is up to you. I suggest that you take at least 10 of those hours for self care (looking after yourself, relaxing and doing something that you love) and at least 20 hours a week for personal development (working towards a project or goal that makes you happy). Allow yourself to dream about who you want to be and what you would love to do, then go for it!
One thing that really gets on my nerves is when people give up before they've even started. How do you know you'll fail if you're not even willing to try?
I'm not saying you should hand in your notice at work tomorrow and pack up all your things to move across the world. What I am saying is you can take small but significant steps to achieving your dreams every day. Look at the bigger picture and break it down into tiny pixels. These pixels become the baby steps you can take. Make them more manageable so that you are less likely to give up when things get tough.
I don't believe that good things come to those who wait. They come to those who work really hard for what they want, and the time to do that is right now. Start today. Life is too short to be unhappy with what you have or what you're doing. Don't waste a second of your time doing things that you really don't enjoy.
At the end of the day we never know which day will be our last. Take the trip, eat that slice of cake, buy the shoes in both colours. Life is short, enjoy every minute of it!